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Level 1 - Intimacy / Beginner

Sleep naked together
Give your partner a massage
Receive a massage from your partner
Give your partner a massage with oil
Receive a massage from your partner with oil
Keep eye contact during intimacy
Have candles lit and create an ambiance
Listen to romantic music while having sex
Morning intimacy
Evening sex
Hug after sex
Have your partner strip or give a lap dance
Strip or give a lap dance to your partner
Romantic date before sex

Level 2 - Adventurous

Talk dirtier to partner
Have partner talk dirtier to me
Moan/Scream higher
Have partner moan/scream higher
Listen to more aggressive (rap/rock) music while having sex
Tell your partner your fantasies
Listen to your partners fantasies
Have more foreplay
Have less foreplay
Give compliments during sex
Describe what you both like and what feels good
Talk openly about turn-ons
Send sexy pictures
Have sex in front of a mirror
Have sex with lights on
Have sex in the dark
Have sex in a car
Have sex in front of an outward facing window
Have sex in a place where you might get caught
Have sex in work environment (Office, etc...)
Slow sex
Intensive sex
Quickie
Long sex pass
Phone sex
Be watched by your partner while you masturbate
Watch your partner masturbate
Mutually masturbate
Have sex with underwear on
Suck on your partner's fingers
Have your partner suck on your fingers
Nibble your partner's earlobes
Have your partner nibble on your earlobes
Sex in the shower
Sex at a hotel
Sex at unusual places at home
Be shaven by your partner
Shave your partner
Shave each other
Have more spontaneous sex
Receive more oral sex
Give more oral sex

Level 3 - Role Play

Role play
Uniforms / sexy costumes
Cosplay
Wear stockings and high heels during sex
Keep clothes on while having sex with partner
Take erotic photos
Take a video of you having sex
Watch the recording together
Dominant / Submissive energy (light)
Plan sex dates
Create a sex bucket list together

Level 4 - Positions & Porn

Try new positions
Outdoor Sex
Wax Play
Exhibitionism (let another person/people/couples watch us have sex)
Voyeurism (watch other couples have sex live)
Penis between breasts
Reverse Cowgirl (on top, facing away)
Doggy Style
Swallow cum / Have your partner swallow cum
Cum over breasts
Cum over face (facial)
Cum in ass
69
Eat food off your partners body
Have your partner eat food off your body
Watch your partner engage in homosexual sex acts
Engage in homosexual sex acts in front of your partner
Read erotic texts together
Listen to erotic audio
Watch porn together
Watch oral instruction videos together
Share fantasies inspired by media
Show your partner how you like something from porn scene
Be shown what your partner likes from porn
Show your partner what you would like to try from porn scene
Be shown what your partner would like to try from porn
Show pictures/film of your partner over the internet
Have your partner show pictures of yourself over the internet
Show pictures of yourself and your partner having sex over the internet
If I could make some money from selling porn clips of myself, I definitely would.

Level 5 - Light BDSM

Have blindfold
Have your partner wear a blindfold
Have hand cuffs
Have your partner wear hand cuffs
Be restrained/hold down by your partner
Restrain/hold down your partner
I like to be dominated, especially in the bedroom.
I like to dominate my partner, especially in the bedroom.
I find the romantic aspect in a relationship much more important than the sexual or kinky aspects.
I have plenty of sexual fantasies that I would like to try out, more than most of my kinky peers.
I don't have any sort of specific fetish or non-standard sexual turn-on.
Give instructions during sex
Receive instructions during sex
Light hair pulling
Light spanking
Temperature games with ice
Edging
Safety words
Use dominant language
Listen to dominant language
Use submissive language
Listen to dominant language
Praise kink
Kneeling
Collar

Level 6 - Toys etc

Show your partner when you use a dildo/vibrator/sex toy
Let your partner show you when they use a dildo/vibrator/sex toy
Let your partner use a dildo/vibrator/sex toy on you
Use anal plug on yourself
Use anal plug on your partner
Erotic lingerie
Latex or leather
Erotic furniture/pillow
Flavoured lube

Level 7 - Add people to the mix

Go to a strip club with partner
Go to a nudist resort with partner
Watch other couples have sex
Include another female in sex
Include another male in sex
Get a massage with happy ending with partner (where legal)
Include a paid person in sex (where legal)
Watch your partner have sex with another person
Have sex with another person while your partner watches
Have sex monogamously with other couples
Include another couple in sex
Go to a sex or swingers club with partner
Go to a pleasure resort with partner
If I could not fulfil all of my partner's sexual desires, I would encourage them to see other people to fill the gaps.
If part of my sexual desires are not fulfilled with my partner, I would want to see other people to fill the gaps.

Level 8 - More positions

Give your partner a foot job
Receive a foot job from your partner
Give your partner a golden shower
Have your partner give me a golden shower
Give your partner a brown shower
Have your partner give me a brown shower

Level 9 - BDSM

Be submissive for partner
Be dominant towards partner
Call your partner obscene words (bitch, slut, whore, etc...)
Be called obscene words by your partner (bitch, slut, whore, etc...)
Have sex while on period
Use dildos in sex
Use vibrators while having sex
Have your partner wear a cock ring (vibrating/non-vibrating) during sex
Use nipple clamps while having sex with partner
Use a butt plug while having sex with partner
Utilise sex furniture with your partner (Sex swing, foam wedges etc...)
Wear earplugs during sex
Have your partner wear earplugs during sex
Be blindfolded by your partner
Blindfold your partner
Be gently choked by your partner
Gently choke your partner
Hold your partner's wrists during sex
Have your partner hold your wrists during sex
Tie down or otherwise restrain your partner
Be tied down or otherwise restrained by your partner
Have my hair pulled by your partner
Pull your partner's hair
Spank your partner with your hand
Be spanked by your partner's hand
Spank your partner with toys (whip, paddle etc...)
Be spanked by your partner with toys (whip, paddle etc...)
Be bitten by your partner
Bite your partner
Be submissive for your partner
Be dominant towards your partner
Have your partner wear a collar
Wear a collar
Have your partner wear a spider gag (oral)
Wear a spider gag for your partner (oral)
Have your partner wear a ball gag
Wear a ball gag for your partner
Be choked with a silk scarf or restraint by your partner
Choke your partner with a silk scarf or restraint
Roleplay rape your partner
Be roleplay raped by your partner
Have a weapon (knife, gun) directed at me during sex (knife and gun play)
Direct a weapon (knife, gun) during sex (knife and gun play)
Slap partner's face during sex
Have my face slapped during sex
Punch partner during sex
Get punch by partner during sex
Anally finger your partner
Be fingered anally by your partner
Have your partner play with my anus, but no penetration
Play with partner's anus but no penetration
Lick your partner's anus
Be licked anally by your partner
Peg partner with a strap-on
Be pegged by partner with a strap-on
Level 10 - BDSM Statements
I like forcing my partner into submission, much more than them submitting spontaneously.
I like being forced into submission, much more than submitting spontaneously.
I don't like making sexual decisions, I prefer my partner to make them for me.
I like to be totally helpless and at my partner's disposal, physically unable to resist what they do.
I am willing to try anything once, even if I don't think I will like it.
Physically restricting my partner during sex/BDSM (with clothes, attributes, rope, chains, etc.) is arousing.
Being physically restricted during sex/BDSM (with clothes, attributes, rope, chains, etc.) is arousing.
I enjoy playing or acting like a pet animal (dog, cat, pony, etc.)
Being treated with little or no respect during sex/BDSM arouses me.
Treating my partner with little or no respect during sex/BDSM arouses me.
I enjoy feeling like a prey hunted by a predator.
I enjoy feeling like a predator hunting its prey.
I often behave in animalistic ways during sex (growling, howling, etc.).
I enjoy being kept as a pet: in a cage, eating out of a bowl, being petted/caressed, etc.
I would like to be completely tied up during sex/BDSM.
I would like it when my partner is completely tied up during sex/BDSM.
I love seeing the fear in my partner's eyes when they know I'm going to inflict pain on them.
Being in fear of what my partner is going to do to me physically, is arousing.
I enjoy playing a different age than what I technically am.
I could be sexually submissive now, and be sexually dominant another time (either to the same, or to another partner).
I could not be always dominant or always submissive, I need both.
I like my partner(s) to be completely in charge in the bedroom, ordering me around.
I like to be completely in charge in the bedroom, and order my partner(s) around.